These days, it seems screen time is an issue for everyone. From us, to our kids, to our partners, everyone could probably afford to cut back a little. As a Mom, I know how infuriating it can be to unload the dishwasher or handle the kids alone while your partner is zoned out on the phone. But, as I’m sure you know, nagging doesn’t work well. Luckily, we found something that DOES!
Next time your husband puts his feet up and stares at his phone, try this little trick!
Step 1: Get His Game Plan
First, ask VERY casually “Whatcha doin’?”
If this sounds at all like you’re nagging, it will never work. You need to be happy and 100% on board. When he mumbles, “Just playing games/checking Twitter/browsing on cars.com” (my husband’s personal favorite) try your absolute hardest to smile and suggest, “You’ve worked hard, honey. You deserve a few minutes to relax.” If this will make your partner suspicious, tell him you read on a blog about how Mom’s need to support their husband having a little relaxation time after work. (You’re not even lying!)
If necessary, repeat Step 1 a couple days before adding Step 2.
Step 2: Join the Fun
Once your husband buys into the fact that you think he deserves to relax, you’re ready for Step 2.
After you get his plan to relax, announce, “You know what? That sounds nice. I think I’m going to join you. We both deserve to relax for 15 minutes!” Again, it is imperative that this sounds genuine. You really need to sell the relaxing. You need to kick your feet the kids watch TV or play. Let the dishes sit. Let it all go for 15 minutes.
I know this goes a hundred percent against what we’re used to, but it’s absolutely critical.
Step 3: Set a Timer
This is where the training really begins. As you grab your phone or book or bullet journal or craft you’re working on or whatever, set a timer. You can use the timer on your microwave or oven pretty easily. I prefer something more local to wherever we’re relaxing. An old school cooking timer like this is super cheap and easy. Personally, I like to announce, “Alexa, set a timer for 15 minutes!” This transfers bad guy status from YOU to Alexa. Because it’s not you that’s going to end the fun. It’s Alexa.
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Step 4: Enjoy Yourself!
Yes, you actually get to relax for 15 minutes. Because the truth is, your partner probably does deserve to relax for a few minutes. And you DEFINITELY do. The house isn’t going to burn down if you sit for 15 minutes. The kids aren’t going to turn into zombies if they watch TV for 15 minutes. And those dishes? They’ll still be there waiting for you. Sometimes we all need a few minutes to reset before facing bedtime/laundry/reality. Enjoy it.
Step 5: Face Reality – TOGETHER
The 15 minutes will go by quickly. For you, and for your partner. So when Alexa, that cold-hearted bitch, announces that time is up, you can be bummed. Drop a heavy sigh, lean over, pat your partner on the leg and say, “Ugh, back to reality. I really enjoyed taking this little break with you. Let’s do this again when you get home tomorrow.” Give him a kiss and stand there waiting for him to get up with you.
Because you’re getting up as a TEAM.
You’re facing reality TOGETHER.
And you’re making a new habit. You can relax together.
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